I spoke with someone recently and they asked me, "Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?" I paused for a moment and the words fell out of my mouth with ease. I said, "I don't have a clue where I'll be in 5 years. In life, you can plan all you want but it never turns out the way you want." I agree that manifesting works, I believe in feeling what you want and need, however, this does not mean that you will land where you want to be specifically.
This same thought process is what I come across quite frequently with people and their version of what a reading is. I too want to hear validation and to be acknowledged for my efforts. Life is not predictable. I do not purport myself to only deliver future predictions. It's not humanly possible. If perfection existed I would be younger, live in an exotic place, be with the love of my life and have an unlimited bank account. Careful what you wish for, that is a cliche that doesn't have any place in truth.
As you're reading this you might be asking yourself, "Why would I get a reading then?" I will be the first to tell you to not focus all of your energy on the reading that you receive. If you've recorded it, put it in a safe place, give it some time and listen to it in a month. Time is not linear and I tell my clients that if I'm given a day or month during a session that it could change, it's elusive. Again, you must be asking yourself, "Why would I book a reading?"
My answer, "You don't have to or need to."
If someone close to you has transitioned and you want to communicate with them, if you are listening to your intuition and want to know more, if you want to observe the roles that you've played and how your experiences have changed you and want to navigate a healthier approach to life....Have a reading.
If you're never ready. That's okay. It is an experience like no other. To be completely honest I have had my clients yell at me mid reading claiming that they are so angry that they can't stand it! I've been told that all they want to hear is the solution, not the work in between, not the building blocks to bring you to a place of clarity. They want a swift painless solution that sounds perfect to them. If you think that a reading is going to give you the only solution and the short cut you will be very disappointed. If you want to identify markers to know that you're on track, acknowledge your strengths, see your weaknesses and be kind with yourself...have a reading.
A reading is not the be all and end all. It's a way to help you observe yourself in a kind way. A reading should acknowledge your past and where you are presently. If all you hear are future predictions you're being ripped off. Take your money and leave.
Sending all of you love,
There has been a change in my approach online recently because I have felt a person shift. I am very careful to strike a balance between the fine line of my personal life and professionalism.
People long to belong, be a part of something, have purpose and experience being loved by another human being. These things make us HUMAN and literally connected. I have been struggling with so much personal stuff lately that it has literally been haunting me. Without sharing my life, I want to let you know that life can be painfully brutal and that you need to know that it is okay to want to run away, hide under a rock, stay away from everyone and melt down.
I have noticed a pattern with people. I see that the fear of facing their feelings, embracing them and absorbing them is so frightening that they rather pretend that none of them exist. I was once this way and I too, had no idea how much I was standing in my own way, resisting loving people and missing out on opportunities. Being empathic has been extremely difficult for me at times, especially when I am in pain. As human beings we can experience hundreds if not thousands of feelings throughout the day. Some are fleeting, some are blips on our radars and some of them cut so deep that they stop us from functioning.
Advice from an empathic intuitive human being;
There are so many preconceived ideas about my profession that they boggle my mind. I understand why there is so much controversy, table tipping, seances and ectoplasm! Need I go on?
I encourage you to question what is on the internet, television shows and movies about the paranormal or supernatural. Using Google to discern authentic and genuinely skilled psychics or mediums is an exercise that will deflate all of your hope for the truth!
I highly recommend avoiding psychic chat lines, these companies keep their clients on the phone charging astronomical rates by the minute to hear the so-called psychic read from a script! If you see an advertisement of an intuitive claiming to give you all of the solutions to your love relationships, find your dream partner and perfect romance...RUN!!! There is not a quick fix to anything in this life. The answer is, human beings are complex, layered and their experiences shape their perspectives. This doesn’t mean that we are all inherently flawed and toxic. It means that our own navigation system, our intuition is hard at work and we often ignore its presence and importance. Here are a few truths that I have discovered in my life while I was trying to understand and accept my intuitive skills.
Stick with me...it's going to get better & easier!
Love you all,
It fascinates me how people ignore their intuition, their innate gut feeling nags at them and they make excuses for their discomfort. Growing up I was guilty of this as well. I found it confusing and frustrating. Over the years I have come to understand that how you feel about yourself and those around you has a literal physical and emotional effect.
I used to talk to animals using a baby voice that most people demonstrate with their fur babies. I have been reading animals without really paying attention to it. That sounds odd, doesn’t it? As I progressed in my skill set I recognized that I was feeling and hearing animals speak to me. I made jokes at first with my friends stating what I thought their dog was saying. Turns out, I was accurate. That was twenty years ago and from that moment on I challenged myself to speak to any animal that came across my path.
A while ago I was out for a walk on a beautiful summer day. In front of me was a gorgeous Doberman leashed to their pet parent and they were walking in front of me. I spoke to her in my thoughts. As I began to say hello and ask her how she was she turned to face me and stopped mid-walk crossing the street and refused to walk forward. She was so excited that I could hear her. She was reprimanded for stopping and I felt bad so I told her goodbye. She continued on her walk and she didn’t stop again. I started reading pictures of people’s fur babies and was accurate. I didn’t need to be near them to know and understand their lives or concerns. I used to be frightened of an angry dog. I would not put myself in harm's way if a dog was reacting to something and unable to control themselves.
I have been experiencing the most amazing things with the animals that I engage and speak to, using my thoughts and energy. I was at a group reading 5 months ago. The home had 2 very small dogs (8 to 10 lbs) that were barking so loudly and constantly that it is piercing and very uncomfortable. I walked into my clients home, they kept barking, I walked into the living room where my group was and the dogs kept barking intensely. Their pet parent kept telling them to be quiet, I did not say a word. I sat on the floor and I filled the room with a sense of comfort, support and love. I told them both that I was safe, that I was here for them and I would protect them. They immediately went quiet and curled up in their pet parents lap. They stopped. Halfway through the reading they overreacted again and starting barking. If I had time only for them, I could have discovered their reasons and what they needed to help them feel secure.
Reading animals is easy. They are not complicated. They are not complex. They remember their environments, their people and what has affected them positively or negatively. I recommend not speaking to your pet and just focusing on emanating an energy that you want them to feel; love. That action alone will change how they perceive and react to you. Give it a try...no one will know.
Sending all of you so much love!
Over the years I have unwittingly morphed into a nomad. It wasn’t a choice; it was a necessity. I have been seeking a place of solace with a strong supportive community. This had been a tall order that the Universe had neglected to fulfill; until now.
I recently moved to Guelph. There are several complex reasons why I ended up in this liberal minded community. I lived in Toronto many years ago and often thought that I would return. I distinctly and audibly heard spirit telling me to move to Toronto starting in February 2016. Moving back felt exciting, I was going to establish a great new social circle, see the city and immerse myself in it. Instead, I recognized that my abilities had taken over my life and this revelation was both disturbing and fatiguing. There were days that I could not leave my home. I prefer to be out and about, experiencing new things and taking in the sites. Instead, I rudely discovered that working full time in my profession had magnified my senses to an intensity that were not humanly manageable. This didn’t happen overnight. It took time where I spent entire days locked in my apartment trying to find ways to reinforce my boundaries. I started on a search to find a person that could assist me with my unusual problems. I did and I was astonished with the incredible results. At first I was reluctant to share my profession with this new person. Furthermore, I felt exposed and vulnerable. Working with Joanna helped me change my practice as a psychic and more definitively as a medium. There is much more to share with you which I will go into at a later date. In the meantime, I encourage you to contact her, she is warm, empathic and incredibly insightful. www.joannafurtadotherapy.com
Guelph is new, I’m slowly starting to feel at ease. Living in a large city previously had impacted my senses and spatial awareness. I was amused to discover that Google Maps is correct with it’s ETA. In Toronto it was chronically unreliable. I was talking to the bank teller at my financial institution and mentioned my move to Guelph. He brought up the traffic congestion problem. I burst out laughing without thinking. He looked down and became flushed. I shared with him that it would take me 45 minutes to an hour to drive 4 kilometers from my apartment to the Gardiner Expressway.
Until Next Time.
Sending love your way!
I used to think that being psychic was akin to possessing magic. That is the furthest thing from the truth. Learning to use your intuition demands a new set of tools. Many people have an adverse reaction when I list the requirements for developing your intuition. I have attended classes periodically as a young adult which I hoped would improve my psychic ability. I found them to be outlandish and cryptic. I endeavored on my own to find an easier and palatable approach to my goals.
This is what I have learned.
1. Using your intuition isn’t an external experience. There isn’t a booming voice that appears out of the clouds, hits you over the head and deems you worthy. Intuition is an innate human skill. You already use it on a daily basis!
2. It’s simple. As long as you meditate, establish self awareness and develop discernment. All of these adjectives take time, patience and commitment.
3. Your 5 senses are the key to your development. Listen to your body, pay attention to your feelings, listen to the voice in your head that prompts you to follow through on your gut feeling. No, you don’t have indigestion. It’s your intuition. Listen!!
4. Meditation wasn’t created to invalidate, frustrate and piss you off. It is essential to your psychic development. I can assure you that it gets easier. The more you meditate the more psychically sensitive you become.
5. It is mandatory to park your emotions to accurately access your intuition.
Much love to you on your journey of self discovery!
An empath is a person who experiences the feelings of the people around them. It is a hypersensitivity, a sensation that is felt throughout the fiber of their being. For me I use this skill to read my clients, people and pets. What does it mean to be an empath? It means that on a daily basis you will be bombarded by people’s feelings, which are not necessarily immediately identifiable. Often empaths feel a myriad of emotions and these feelings are not theirs. If you are an empath, you feel the need to help and understand everyone around you. It is a natural willingness to be open to others and to assist them with their challenges.
Looking back from my childhood I have put the pieces together and made connections with my experiences being an empath. I recall seeing people in spirit starting when I was five years old. I felt their presence immediately just before falling asleep at night, in the middle of the night and in the morning. I couldn’t see anyone but I knew that they were there. I often had headaches which would most likely be called migraines by today’s standards. I remember my head hurting so badly that I would crawl into bed during the day into the fetal position and I would cry myself to sleep. During these horrible headaches, I had to be in a dark room; the light irritated my eyes, intensified the pain and I felt nauseous. I distinctly remember situations that would make me anxious; friends that I didn’t want to be near because of their destructive and hurtful ways. I literally had a built in barometer for situations that I could never have predicted as a child. This unknown feeling that presented itself frequently kept me safe.
As an empath I have learned throughout the years how to develop strategies, healthy practices and strong boundaries to cope.
Questions to ask yourself to identify if you are an Empath;
I have a few tips for you to look for when considering connecting to your family and friends in spirit. I equate communicating with spirit to a completely different language, however english or any language works perfectly well in to be honest.
Be patient with yourself. These new tools take time to learn to utilize.
I drove to my clients home for a very small group reading, a mother and her 2 children were expecting me. In the car a sharp concentrated pain in my ribs on the right side began to throb and ache. The pain intensified the closer I got to the residence. By the time I arrived I couldn't ignore the discomfort that was plaguing my ribs and back. I arrived, greeted my clients and we situated ourselves comfortably in the living room.
I explained to the family how we would work together and to not share any details or information with me. I asked them all to respond with a yes or no answer. I told my clients that I see, hear and feel people in spirit. I went on to explain that someone was so determined to come through that they had made me feel the pain that they suffered while they were alive, before their passing. I described the pain, where it was located and throughout the reading I continued to hold my hand against my rib hoping to suppress the discomfort. The pain dissipated after confirming the person in spirit. I said to my client Joan*, I have someone here who passed from cancer, they found a tumor on the liver, but there was a primary and secondary location. All three of them said "yes." I said, "this is your husband." Joan immediately responded "yes." I said, "who is Don?" Joan replied in tears, "my husband."" I began to describe his gregarious personality, his anger at the disease that took his life, his inability to parent his children and to support his wife.
He talked to his daughter, he told her that she is studying medicine, that she is distracted in her studies and he described specific people in detail to stay away from that would hurt her and put her in harms way. He said that she would become a doctor. She immediately disagreed and I responded that she would become a nurse, work in the emergency department but continue her education to become a surgeon. She laughed and had a look of disbelief on her face. He went on to tell her that she doubted her brilliance and ability to become a doctor, as he predicted. He told her about her fears, that she confirmed and he said he would be with her every step of the way to help her. He told her that her success was beyond her wildest dreams.
He addressed his son, telling him about the item that he keeps under his bed that reminds him of his dad, a picture that he talks to, when he is alone in his room. He also said that it's okay for him to be angry at him and to let it out. His son burst into tears, he responded to me in few words and often paused to take in what was transpiring in front of us. His father understood his anger, frustration and disappointment that his lost his father. The young man is only 16 years old.
I turned to Joan and I said, "you have a double sink in your en-suite bathroom and you talk to your husband every morning in the mirror." She said "yes." I said "I see you with a cup in your hand. She said "yes, my morning tea." Joan had developed such a strong relationship with her husband that it continued after his passing. Her husband showed me how she talked to him daily, first thing in the morning. The bond between them is so strong that she had not noticed her husband trying to get her attention, physically. I said "your husband has been trying to get your attention but you're not noticing him." Joan looked confused and disagreed that she hadn't been aware of his efforts. Her husband told me to ask about the blue bracelet in the kitchen. She got up from her chair in the living room and walked to the kitchen, and picked up something, returned and set a blue and silver bracelet in front of me. She said "it's weird, I just found this behind my dresser." I said "your husband moved it." She disagreed. I then said "your answering machine on your home phone isn't working properly." She agreed. I said I have these numbers that your husband has repeated to me. I said "what does 7690 mean?" She said "the code to answer my phone messages on my home phone is 7691."
I was in shock. In 14 years I have never given someone their password for a security feature. Granted, I had 3 out of 4 numbers correct but I was blown away with the accuracy and intensity that this father had. He was determined to have his family acknowledge his ability to communicate and to continue to support them after his passing. Don has given me the most profound and life changing experience as a person and a medium. I don't doubt the presence of people in spirit. I never have. I am so impressed with the love that this man holds for his family. It was moving, to the point during the session that all 4 of us were crying. He was a man on a mission. He achieved his goal and will always be present for his family.
Thank you Don, for being you and making yourself known.
Lots of love,
*Names and details have been changed to protect my clients identity.*
How about that? A year has gone by and I have not written a blog. I have been wrapped up in adjusting to Toronto, to personal challenges and to life. I HATE making excuses. Accountability and responsibility are extremely important to me. When I lived in Hamilton things were different. I had the support of my closest and longest friend, Leanne, who was also my personal assistant. I also lived in a city, which felt like the suburbs, not like the downtown core of Toronto where I currently reside. Excuses aside, here is what I discovered.
Since I decided to work full time in my career, which I did in October 2014 my life has changed dramatically in ways that I could not have imagined. Moving to Toronto opened up possibilities for me; I was sought out and interviewed by Post City Magazine. Around the same time I was contacted by a television producer and asked to audition for a few television shows that they had in development. I was contacted by a mother searching for her missing son. It was one of the most difficult reading that I have ever done; the emotional aftermath took me several weeks to recover from. My mother was in an accident that required 5 hours of surgery including pins and plates. My cats didn’t adjust well, wreaking havoc on my furniture and they weren’t themselves. The building I moved into was and still is under construction, listening to hours of drilling, hammering, constant noise has made me feel annoyed and frustrated. I have had long term friendships end and new ones evolve. Overall there has been constant change, which has drained me, emotionally. The most amazing part is that I have noticed that I can slip into a reading without preparation or effort. It just happens. It has become hazardous to my friendships and frustrating for me personally. I will adjust. I am adjusting. It’s taken much more time than I anticipated.
When you think you have it all figured out with your plans for your future and how things will unfold, read my blog. Personally, I have had to face a lot of challenges and fears that I didn’t know were issues, it has been very hard for me. Fortunately and I am very grateful for the support system I have in place, which includes other mediums and very close friends who are always present.
We are all guided to what we need to investigate further personally, examine it, let go of it and to face, whether we want to or not. Facing your fears requires courage on your behalf. The worst of what you imagine will rarely come to fruition. What you will discover in your hardships are parts of you that you didn’t know existed!! Sometimes we think we are weak, incapable or inept. We are not. Our family and friends in spirit will step in, when required and as requested. The rest is up to us.
Ursula has been a medium since she was a child and enjoys sharing her experiences!