I am fully aware of how people have had enough and are struggling to manage. I’m tired of it too. I see how people have adjusted to their environment, protocol’s, approach and how to conduct themselves. It feels old and they want to move on.
I have had to face a lot of health issues that have lasted many months. I wasn’t prepared to cope with so many illnesses and unknowns. No one likes to feel helpless with an illness that has a life of it’s own within their body. Many people cope with this by the moment, hourly, daily and for years on end. My own challenges have brought another part of my character to the forefront and I have to say, “I really like pushy, I’ve had enough BS Ursula, version 5.0!” I have had to advocate for myself in distress, extreme physical pain and without the clarity that I would have if not feeling multiple symptoms in my body at all once. It’s hard and sometimes it feels soul crushing. I have felt defeated and very low at times. It’s human to not feel excited or happy during a crisis. I am blisteringly aware of the phrase, “Stay strong!” and admittedly, these two words piss me off for a few reasons. First, amongst people closest to me, I am perceived as a very strong individual and I am. However, this doesn’t mean that I am not blindsided by grief, pain, emotional heartache and helplessness sometimes. I fall apart, I scream, cry, sob and allow all of the feelings that are surfacing within me to move through me. Feeling your feelings is a hard job, it doesn’t come with instructions, often people want to push them away, make them disappear and ignore them. That my friends, is not humanly possible. Feelings don’t take a vacation or give you a break because they can. Feelings are not good or bad. Sometimes they move through us quickly without us detecting them and other times they take up residence! I assure you that there are ways to cope. There are resources, online forums and therapists out there waiting for you to reach out. A few skills that you can research independently are Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, each skill set has a multitude of tools to support you.
I see daily within the majority of my clients, similar themes. They are unable to identify how they feel and why. This isn’t easy to do if you were not taught this in childhood. We establish our coping mechanisms very early in life and those same skills are still being used in adulthood, which often means that they are ineffective. Learning to become self aware, to establish healthy coping mechanisms leads to great communication and these are all learned skills. The number of people whom I see that struggle with feeling anxiety is staggering. It's okay! I support you, I see you and I am here for you. I hold space for my clients without judgement and demonstrate compassion.
Being strong doesn’t mean that you cannot demonstrate vulnerability. In fact, you are at your strongest when you are most vulnerable. Being vulnerable has taught me who loves me, faults and all. It has taught me how powerful all human beings are and that they become ten times closer when they show each other compassion and express how they feel, even if it feels uncomfortable. Vulnerability does not equal weakness. It is the absolute opposite!
The next time you question why you aren’t strong enough, why you feel so confused, please know that you are doing your best with the situation at hand and that is all that is required of you. Be kind to yourself in the face of adversity, grief and pain. Self compassion is another powerful tool that will help you out of the darkest of places. Placing responsibility on yourself to know and be everything, will always cause you to feel disappointed in yourself. When you feel your worst remember this; you’re right this is hard, this event doesn’t make you inept it means that you’re human and having a human experience is not void of difficulty. You are doing your best, even when you feel terrible. No matter what happens in your life; you are valued, worthy and loved by so many people. Please know how important and special you are, you impact people in ways that you will never know about. Be who you are, take up space, raise your voice to adversity and show yourself love in the process.
I wish all of you comfort, peace and unconditional love.
It’s true, I do my best not share personal stories, it’s a very fine line that becomes a balancing act somedays when I post to social media. Vulnerability, professionalism and integrity are very important to me and I do my best to demonstrate them. As many of you struggled last year and into this year, I too found myself alone, without people to visit or to join their bubble as was frequently suggested in the news.
I became fatigued, frustrated and very angry. A bitterness grew within me that took over at times and I didn’t want anyone to see it. An angry part of me showed up and would not leave; a part of me that needed compassion and grace. I looked around and it was just me and my two cats that had become very clingy knowing that I was hurting emotionally. It took me almost a year to realize and accept that this was my reality. I denied myself compassion in the face of an unknown that still continues to morphe and shift humanities perspective. A voice inside me raged and criticized who I was, who I became with a voracity that left me a mess most days.
Last year was my busiest year to date, my calendar was filled with group classes, private lessons, animal and individual readings. I had to make changes not only to a horribly critical voice in my head (me) but to my business practices and approach too. I made tiny changes so I could cope with my work load. An outcome of giving so many readings was that a change in my abilities happened. I have given readings over the phone or video conference call for 9 years of my 17 years in business. Working online wasn’t new to me, it increased my ability to see into people’s homes and lives to a level that became very intimate. If my client was in an abusive relationship, I was right there with them, but they couldn’t see me watching what was unfolding. I had to learn how to cope with the vulnerability that I was experiencing on behalf of my clients which took some time and thought.
Now, reflecting on what happened last year, I realized that I had gained further insight into my mechanisms that no longer serve me. That angry person seething and waiting for the next moment to attack my well being had been acknowledged for who she was and what she needed. She needed to be embraced because she felt alone and shown compassion for the difficulties that were being thrown at her daily, personally and professionally. I am developing a profound understanding of my needs and how to meet them, without the support of another human being. I can do this. I am capable of managing my life alone. It’s not easy or simple. Some days I manage an hour at a time and some days, I just sleep because my body tells me to. I listen to what I need and how my body feels.
When you’re falling apart and the tears are streaming down your face, your heart is pounding out of your chest and the ache you feel has taken over your body, please know that a part of you needs you. It needs to get angry, to rail against feelings that you might not be able to identify but they are wreaking havoc on your mind. Your feelings are there to tell you what you need and sometimes just naming them will enable you to get through the next moment.
I don’t feel that there are enough words to describe this year. I am not someone who uses statements like, “It’s been a bad day, week, month or year.” I believe that if I frame sentences with these timelines that I’m not being truthful and it’s limiting. I feel that the most accurate word to describe everything this year is CHANGE. The intensity that I experienced personally and professionally has been overwhelming.
For the first time in 5 years, in early March of this year I visited my family in England. Two days after returning home the world changed with the Corona Virus. I had already been giving readings virtually for 8 years of my 16 years in practice, there were adjustments using Zoom for each session and I figured it out. I truly dislike using technology and I’m self taught. If some of my stuff online looks a little messy, please forgive my novice abilities. A lot of my clients met with me while they were in their vehicle. It was odd, but it made sense with the circumstances of being at home. This was the busiest year that I have had to date in my business.
I taught 2 separate Intuitive Development Groups, they started out on location; one in Guelph and the other in Thornbury, ON. I transitioned them to online classes, which felt seamless to me, however some of my students were concerned that there would be a barrier not being in-person. I recall one of my students children dancing around in the background while I lead a meditation, it was hilarious but I couldn’t stop and laugh. I absolutely love teaching! I feel excited to see my students make intuitive connections and to begin to understand how their psychic abilities work. I was SUPER EXCITED and proud to watch my graduates read guest volunteers ONLINE! These students had never before studied psychic development. It was amazing to watch and it made me so very happy to watch them give readings with incredible accuracy.
I was contacted by a TV Producer the end of September, he had been referred to me. He was seeking a Medium to read a couple for a Reality TV Show. I told him to not tell me anything about the show. He gave me the filming date and an address that was close by to the location, 5 minutes before I was to arrive, he texted me the actual address where I would be giving the reading. It was very eventful, not only did I read the couple, I also read the TV Producer and one of the camera crew. People in spirit were interrupting me to make sure that they were heard! When I have the air date I will post it to my social media platforms.
I wish all of you comfort and love,
I see you. I see you struggling to wake up, feeling restless and alone. I see you going through the motions to let everyone around think that you are okay. I see you smiling despite feeling despair in the pit of your stomach. I see you filled with anger at the world and the atrocities that human beings invoke upon one another. The unknown is terrifying; it keeps us up at night and it fills our days with uncertainty.
I want a solution. I want an answer. I want everything to be okay. I have learned to sit with my emotions and allow them to take up residence if that is required or let them move through my body. I am very familiar with anxiety. It is my nemesis and it is my SIGN. Anxiety used to make me wretch and reel against it. It would squeeze me into places that I don’t fit, pushing me beyond my limits into a state of frenzy, a blinding emotional pain. I couldn’t understand for the life of me why I suffered in this way and to this extent. I began to understand that it was a part of my intuition, my natural navigation system, a barometer of not only my feelings but the feelings of every single human being that I came into contact with physically or even electronically (email, text, social media.) This realization made my head spin. I felt helpless and alone. For a few years, I felt that I was a victim of my intuition. Being overwhelmed with emotions every minute of every day became relentless and exhausting.
It wasn’t until I realized that my feelings, as I see them now, were parts of me that needed my attention, compassion, love and kindness. Anxiety is a part of our lives to determine fight or flight, whether an incoming situation is to be dealt with or to run away to safety. I suspect that many of you reading this want to run away from what is happening in the world, to find a cure for the pandemic and to return to what was comfortable. I can assure you that comfort does not work in tandem with what causes us pain. Healing from trauma, dysfunction or an environment that hurts us, is painful. If it was comfortable everyone would want to rush to understand what has been plaguing their thoughts. They would easily triumph over them, embrace their growth and move forward with an unparalleled confidence. That’s not how healing begins, it hurts, it pulls us apart, absorbs our thoughts and takes up residence in our spirit.
Over the past 6 months I have witnessed and felt in my body all of the emotions with each and every client that I have seen. I too have fallen apart and surrendered to my feelings. They weren’t washing over me, sometimes I still live in a tsunami. Some of us bury our feelings and compartmentalize them into other places, hiding them from the truth. The truth is, we need connection, we need to be engaged with other human beings, strangers, acquaintances, partners and family members. We need safety, we need security and most of all we need to be seen.
I see you, in all of your glory, in the pits of emotions that make you sweat and I see you doing the best that you can. All you can do is your best, despite what is happening around you. You are not weak, you are not inept, you have been shoved into the unknown, an ocean of everything and nothing. You are trying to right yourself, to get your bearings. I recommend making space for yourself, even if for a few minutes before bed, to listen to a guided meditation, to enable you to connect to your spirit. You are resilient AF. You are perfect as you are. Right now, nurturing you, is the best thing that you can do. Please remember, your loved ones that are in spirit hear you, see you and feel you. They will support you from the spirit world, ask them for assistance, their presence and to become aware that you are not alone.
Lots of love,
I want to impart wisdom, security and insight with each blog that I write however, those words come with a very tall order. I neglectfully stopped writing many months ago and focused my energy on surviving. With the onset of the pandemic and the requirements that I had to meet in my daily life some demands fell by the wayside. Individual readings increased ten fold and I was wrapped up in people’s lives with an intensity that took an emotional toll. All of us have watched the world crumble and we adapted. To witness a disease take over the world and watch it end many lives is terrifying, with it comes a flood of pain that I have felt deep within my soul.
When news of the pandemic unfolded, I couldn’t discern between my feelings and the waves of emotions that I felt viscerally in my body which was the energy of people around me suffering. I generally have a heightened level of awareness that affects my environment, connections with people and animals. My two cats began to cling to me as they reacted to my physical and emotional discomfort.
Many business ideas flooded my mind to produce videos to help people to understand the supernatural and paranormal. I created short videos with easily understood segments for you to share with others. Personally, I dislike complicating anything. I need the coles notes version rather than formal explanations. Over time I saw the pandemic as a way to sit with our feelings. It’s shocking to me the number of people that I see that overwork, over schedule themselves which makes them anxious, it’s mind boggling. Individual readings over the past several months have been very difficult. I’ve been witnessing people suffering for a myriad of reasons, losing a family member, employment, mental health and for some experiencing domestic violence. I have had sleepless nights feeling powerless over my clients lives. There is hope, I have observed courageous, vulnerable people who are managing, despite their narrative. I see their resilience, depth of character and strength of spirit.
I have done my best to support you, through live videos, I took some of you on a journey of guided meditations and one of them enabled you to meet your people in spirit! I want you to know that I’m here, a little bruised, battered and hopefully wiser. To be honest, times have been problematic which has brought me to my knees sobbing and experiencing the pandemic has shown me who I am. I continue to fall apart as I embrace that my feelings need to be acknowledged and I know that I do not have all the answers. It’s very important for me to nurture myself. I assure you that embracing your feelings and identifying your fear will reduce your anxiety and enable you to meet your own needs.
I wish you healing for those that are sick. I wish comfort for those that have transitioned and for those of us that grieve their passing. Most of all I wish you love in times of discomfort, loss and anxiety. You are beautiful beings dealing with a crisis. In the unknown, we have each other.
I send you love, healing and peace.
Emotional intelligence and providing space for people is not a topic that is raised with frequency and discussed in depth. Our feelings are directly linked to our intuition. I wouldn’t have believed that fact if you had spelled it out to me in large looming letters. I had to live it to know it’s impact and how I navigate my life. Some people run on autopilot, familiar with their routines and running on empty. The social norms are to ask how you are and what you’ve been up to answer with pat phrases that comply with a mundane auto response. How you feel directly impacts your life, it invades your relationships, work life, family and communication. If you reach out to a friend right now and told them that you were falling apart, they would respond with a solution, rather than listening to your plight. You may be reading this and asking yourself “Why would a psychic medium be discussing my emotions?”
I’ll tell you why and explain it in detail. A reading encompasses your past, present and future. It delves into the very fabric of your life, displaying to me your triumphs, failures, activities and behaviours. Our feelings shape our world. They provide a perspective that only we can decipher. They can overwhelm us, spin us out and dictate a response to them that could have negative consequences. It’s what we do with our feelings that makes the difference in our thoughts, routine and actions.
Attuning yourself to how you feel will enable you to develop self awareness, in turn amplifying your intuition. When your intuition gets louder you start to listen and pay attention. Feelings can be insignificant, fleeting and obtuse. It’s the feelings that linger, state their presence that we either listen embracing what they need to show us or we push them away and avoid them. This is what you do with your intuition on a daily basis.
What would happen if you gave your intuition the time and attention that it needs? You would make better choices, become attentive to friends in need, pick up cues that were benign and see them for what they truly are, signs directing you to help yourself or others.
It pains me to hear how often people dismiss their feelings. There are circumstances where they become problematic. I am talking about the niggling, the discomfort or excitement that takes up residence in your body, trying to get you to notice them. These markers are your intuition hard at work, while your brain turns these signs into thoughts blown out of proportion. You tell yourself that something bad is coming, that you’ve done something wrong or that you’re not good enough. These statements are the furthest from the truth when your intuition is involved.
I hope that in time you’ll explore the possibilities and give yourself the credit that you deserve. Your intuition knows what’s best for you. Please start to listen to hear it’s greatest rewards.
I recall quite vividly my experiences with feeling, seeing and hearing people in spirit, especially when I was a very young child. It was unsettling, paralyzing and very confusing. It took me a long time to understand, learn and embrace my abilities. I hit a lot of roadblocks with teachers and decided to pursue my development on my own.
I want you to know that intuition is a skill that has been present from the moment you arrived here as a baby and that it will never let you down. Intuition (psychic ability) and Mediumship (talking to/with people in spirit) are NATURAL skills that the human race possesses. It can be perceived as complicated or you can see it as I do, a tool to enable you to navigate your life, decisions with work, family, relationships and life. If you haven’t acknowledged it and you want to know the in’s and outs of it, I will show you, in a compassionate, fun and experiential way. Perfection does not exist and we all have something to bring to the table that is unique and awe inspiring.
I am adamant and confident in my decision to help people to understand the metaphysical world. It’s important to me to show you how to talk to your loved ones that you grieve, to connect you to your innate intuitive skills and to build your bond with your animal companions. I don’t want you to spend another second in this life missing out on a whole new world.
Join me to explore and discover your abilities!
I spoke with someone recently and they asked me, "Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?" I paused for a moment and the words fell out of my mouth with ease. I said, "I don't have a clue where I'll be in 5 years. In life, you can plan all you want but it never turns out the way you want." I agree that manifesting works, I believe in feeling what you want and need, however, this does not mean that you will land where you want to be specifically.
This same thought process is what I come across quite frequently with people and their version of what a reading is. I too want to hear validation and to be acknowledged for my efforts. Life is not predictable. I do not purport myself to only deliver future predictions. It's not humanly possible. If perfection existed I would be younger, live in an exotic place, be with the love of my life and have an unlimited bank account. Careful what you wish for, that is a cliche that doesn't have any place in truth.
As you're reading this you might be asking yourself, "Why would I get a reading then?" I will be the first to tell you to not focus all of your energy on the reading that you receive. If you've recorded it, put it in a safe place, give it some time and listen to it in a month. Time is not linear and I tell my clients that if I'm given a day or month during a session that it could change, it's elusive. Again, you must be asking yourself, "Why would I book a reading?"
My answer, "You don't have to or need to."
If someone close to you has transitioned and you want to communicate with them, if you are listening to your intuition and want to know more, if you want to observe the roles that you've played and how your experiences have changed you and want to navigate a healthier approach to life....Have a reading.
If you're never ready. That's okay. It is an experience like no other. To be completely honest I have had my clients yell at me mid reading claiming that they are so angry that they can't stand it! I've been told that all they want to hear is the solution, not the work in between, not the building blocks to bring you to a place of clarity. They want a swift painless solution that sounds perfect to them. If you think that a reading is going to give you the only solution and the short cut you will be very disappointed. If you want to identify markers to know that you're on track, acknowledge your strengths, see your weaknesses and be kind with yourself...have a reading.
A reading is not the be all and end all. It's a way to help you observe yourself in a kind way. A reading should acknowledge your past and where you are presently. If all you hear are future predictions you're being ripped off. Take your money and leave.
Sending all of you love,
There has been a change in my approach online recently because I have felt a person shift. I am very careful to strike a balance between the fine line of my personal life and professionalism.
People long to belong, be a part of something, have purpose and experience being loved by another human being. These things make us HUMAN and literally connected. I have been struggling with so much personal stuff lately that it has literally been haunting me. Without sharing my life, I want to let you know that life can be painfully brutal and that you need to know that it is okay to want to run away, hide under a rock, stay away from everyone and melt down.
I have noticed a pattern with people. I see that the fear of facing their feelings, embracing them and absorbing them is so frightening that they rather pretend that none of them exist. I was once this way and I too, had no idea how much I was standing in my own way, resisting loving people and missing out on opportunities. Being empathic has been extremely difficult for me at times, especially when I am in pain. As human beings we can experience hundreds if not thousands of feelings throughout the day. Some are fleeting, some are blips on our radars and some of them cut so deep that they stop us from functioning.
Advice from an empathic intuitive human being;
There are so many preconceived ideas about my profession that they boggle my mind. I understand why there is so much controversy, table tipping, seances and ectoplasm! Need I go on?
I encourage you to question what is on the internet, television shows and movies about the paranormal or supernatural. Using Google to discern authentic and genuinely skilled psychics or mediums is an exercise that will deflate all of your hope for the truth!
I highly recommend avoiding psychic chat lines, these companies keep their clients on the phone charging astronomical rates by the minute to hear the so-called psychic read from a script! If you see an advertisement of an intuitive claiming to give you all of the solutions to your love relationships, find your dream partner and perfect romance...RUN!!! There is not a quick fix to anything in this life. The answer is, human beings are complex, layered and their experiences shape their perspectives. This doesn’t mean that we are all inherently flawed and toxic. It means that our own navigation system, our intuition is hard at work and we often ignore its presence and importance. Here are a few truths that I have discovered in my life while I was trying to understand and accept my intuitive skills.
Stick with me...it's going to get better & easier!
Love you all,
Ursula has been a medium since she was a child and enjoys sharing her experiences!