Can't stop the feels

There has been a change in my approach online recently because I have felt a person shift. I am very careful to strike a balance between the fine line of my personal life and professionalism.

People long to belong, be a part of something, have purpose and experience being loved by another human being. These things make us HUMAN and literally connected. I have been struggling with so much personal stuff lately that it has literally been haunting me. Without sharing my life, I want to let you know that life can be painfully brutal and that you need to know that it is okay to want to run away, hide under a rock, stay away from everyone and melt down.
I have noticed a pattern with people. I see that the fear of facing their feelings, embracing them and absorbing them is so frightening that they rather pretend that none of them exist. I was once this way and I too, had no idea how much I was standing in my own way, resisting loving people and missing out on opportunities. Being empathic has been extremely difficult for me at times, especially when I am in pain. As human beings we can experience hundreds if not thousands of feelings throughout the day. Some are fleeting, some are blips on our radars and some of them cut so deep that they stop us from functioning.

Advice from an empathic intuitive human being;

1. Our feelings are present to get our attention.
   
2. They are a part of us, I liken them to parts of myself, almost like a thousand different “me’s” vying for my attention.
   
3. There are days that I can sit with them and give them my focus.
   
4. There are days that I spend distracting myself to ease up on the intensity that comes with them.
   
5. I know that they cannot destroy me. They can take up residence and sometimes they do for weeks on end and THAT is okay. I’ll get to them when I’m READY!
   
6. Breathe. If you can’t fathom facing your feelings, take long slow deep diaphragmatic breaths. I always stop and breathe slowly until I feel calm and soothed. I always feel the latter after stopping and practicing this valuable skill.
   
7. Remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can. That you are enough. That you are loved and that you are not alone.
   

Sending all of you so much love,
Ursula xo