Getting Out of Your Head

There is a certain amount of resilience that someone must have to move through life’s obstacles. Mine have been many, as they have been for you. Recently, I shared a very personal story with a friend and she was taken aback by my ability to navigate potential pitfalls and to come out triumphant. What does that mean to be triumphant? Success which is a word that is bantered about our society with great ease yet it remains elusive to some of us. To understand what it feels like to be successful you must look at your history. How did you handle certain events? What has changed within you? Most importantly how have you gained clarity in times of discomfort and pain?  You must put effort into your desire. It doesn’t happen magically by itself as some may preach. I am very aware of the Law of Attraction, and the Universal Laws. I have struggled with their principals because I feel that everything should turn out the way I want, NOW. This brings me to a very important point.

The most frequent question I hear with clients is: When will I meet my partner? Will my money troubles disappear? Is my (insert family member here) in spirit upset with me because we didn’t talk before their passing? These are all valid points that deserve time and attention. Sitting back and reflecting on them, you can see that if you don’t have direction, guidance or self-awareness you may miss the mark on your destination. The greatest barometer of your life is you. Outside circumstances do not predict your success or failure. It is how you manage them. How do we do this? With great patience, kindness to ourselves and love in our hearts. It’s difficult to muster feelings of love for ourselves when we chronically criticise and berate our efforts in our heads. You know what I mean. You’ll go to a party hoping to meet someone; you do and find that you become tongue tied and awkward. You leave feeling dejected and hyper aware of your lack of gracefulness. Then you begin to tell yourself why you shouldn’t try and go into a diatribe in your head validating your lack of worth. You know what I’m talking about. Everyone does this. They just don’t recognize it because it’s been a part of their behaviours for so long that it has become a long ingrained habit.

If we step back and take the pressure off of ourselves our world would change dramatically. If we don’t do this we end up feeling hopelessness and lack of motivation. How can you motivate yourself when you’ve beaten yourself down so deeply that you can’t see the sunlight after the rain? It’s not easy. It is very possible and probable that you can turn your life around starting with your thoughts. Sometimes our thoughts can steer us in directions making us act like someone we don’t recognize.

Share. Open up. Be Vulnerable. All of the things that we consistently avoid are available to us at any moment. Choose your thoughts wisely.  If they are negative turn them around to support and love you, not berate you. We choose our lives. Events happen, we experience trauma, friendships end and people pass over. This is your life. How do you choose it? Ask yourself, who does it start with and why shouldn’t it be YOU.