It's sometimes hard to understand how to be compassionate with yourself in the face of adversity. Self care is not an idea. It is a practice that many of us fail to execute, especially when we are under duress.
There is never a good time for bad news, loss of a friendship, a family member to become ill or a tragedy. These are the events that affect us daily, without warning.
I have recently been consumed by a very close family member who had an accident. They are recovering slowly, however it has taken over my thoughts, caused me emotional distress and made life a little more difficult.
I forgot to take care of myself first. I jumped into action immediately and put all of my needs aside to help them. This strategy has not worked and I'm feeling drained physically and emotionally. I was reminded by a close friend that self care and having compassion for myself is required.
I also forgot to ask spirit for support and to allow time for myself to feel the myriad of emotions running through my head.
If I'm not taking care of myself I can't be there for others. I am hyper sensitive to emotions because of my job. I am not immune and I can attest to feeling lost, upset and alone. I am not alone. I have my close friends who have reached out in ways I could not have imagined. I have strengthened relationships that I thought were gone. I have received guidance, love and compassion when I needed it the most from places that I never knew were there. I am human and I have a job that most would think that I would receive messages and insight about this situation, but I did not. No warnings, no signs, no messages.
Life is about navigating when you feel that you've lost your direction. Make the mistakes. Take a risk. Ask for your needs to be met. Open your heart when you are afraid to, especially when you are afraid! Spirit will step up, when you don't know that they are there.
Most of all, show yourself the love that you give to others.
Lots of love to you all,
Ursula has been a medium since she was a child and enjoys sharing her experiences!